((((Deli)))) I also want to echo the words said by everyone else. I find it really strange that Austin-t seems to have switched gears with you. I remember hiim wanting to see you and to have enough of a separation between what you do with pdoc and what you do with him. It didnt seem then that he was looking for you to become more independent of him. When he went to South Africa, I remember there were some comments (correct me if Im wrong) about what to do and what kind of therapy when he returned. I also never go the feeling you were terribly dependent on him. Your comfort and confidant was pdoc. Which was probably not the best situation, but you did keep things from him, too.

I dont like this stuff about being too dependent. Unless a client is really very dependent for their daily existence on their therapist, but even then it may be what that person needs at that time. You have always been social, you traveled with friends, you work, you are very well-liked, you worked VERY VERY hard to get the degree you have. WTF? That maked me kind of angry.

And to have more balance and be with friends your own age? I dont see this as an issue for you. And you posted that you dont either. The only conclusion I can reach is that HE, personally, has some reason for this change that doesnt have to do with you. It sounds hard to believe, but maybe it is so. And if you dont feel comfortable doing trauma work, which I can understand since you are just now moving out of the scene of the crime, you will for sure want to be with someone you can imagine being yourself with. That will be really important. I wonder if either pdoc or austin-t fits the bill? Could it be that you have gone as far as you can go with him?

I suppose you can play it by ear and wait to see what he says if he txts you back, but I dont know if Id feel comfortable saying this stuff in person to him either.

I have to say, dt made those same stupid remarks (like Tree's T) about going back to your kids (after a sesison) and this was the f***ing focus of her therapy with me. That I was focusing on myself too much. Is she for real? When T's get it wrong, it hurts all the more. Im surprised Ausitn-t said these things as he should know you well enough by now.