So, I think you've gotten some excellent feedback on both the positives and the negatives of the dynamics of the relationship with your T.

My only advice would be to keep evaluating the situation, how you feel, and if this situation has remained therapeutic. Your therapy is about you and your recovery and in that space between you, there has to be room for anger, sadness, disagreements and repair. The role of the T, IMO, is to facillitate that exploration, everything else sort of has to remain secondary.

Personally, I'm a huge fan of believing that my T lives in his office and never leaves it. Every now and again I've seen him free range. It's a shock - like OMG! He's loose!

We were at the same restaurant one time, and I just kind of sat there like WTH? It was like watching an exotic species in it's native environment - Rather fascinating, but also rather uncomfortable.

However, sort of like your situation, it did help me to realize that he was going to be the "keeper" of my truths you know? He could hold them, and well, still manage to be normal enough to eat in a restaurant.

For me though, all in all, like most exotic species, I think direct contact in the wild is best avoided.