I think the decision as to whether or not to confront one's abuser is a very personal thing. For some I'm sure it can be very empowering, but I'm not sure it's restorative. Is that even possible? Can any amount of justice ever do that?

Assuming responsiblity for my current life, whatever befalls or has befallen me, is the ultimate empowerment for me. I persist, I thrive, I grow.

I guess the most powerful words I ever heard, or said, were "I forgive you".

But each approaches recovery in their own way and whatever works, works you know?