Elliemae: Of course that decision is a personal thing. I think it restores your power. It cannot change what happened, but when you speak up and name it, it is empowering.

So many abused people are in horrific pain at what was done to them in the past, and fear revealing that secret or saying anything at all.

Abuse (like everything in life) is a choice. We have a choice to confront the abuser with what they have done.

It is amazing. The abuser goes on with their life, as if in nothing had ever happened and the abused spend a lifetime trying to come to grips with it.