((((((((((((((( fearfulfrog ))))))))))))))))
I can only imagine the emotions and fear you are going through right now. I'm so sorry
I can tell you this, my youngest daughter had back surgery at Dartmouth 2 years ago and is still walking

She had a great surgeon and while she is still not where she wants to be pain wise (the surgery was a gamble, fusion of L4 & L5), the surgery was successful with no complications.
Take some deep breaths hon....try to relax a bit and calm. Write out your concerns, it might help to get them out, feelings and all. You are welcome to pm me if you like and I'll gladly listen.
Take care!

sabby