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Originally Posted by kitten16
That comment in your first post about your mother saying you were selfish really struck a chord. Parents accusing children of selfishness always strikes me as beyond strange. My folks harped on that string all the time. The way I see it, the child's task is simply enormous -- survival. And particularly if you're not only NOT getting help to survive, but are being damaged on a daily basis by the people whose job it is to nurture and protect you while you develop, you have to do whatever you have to do.
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Kitten- I feel that way, too. I think my family used the word selfishness because they had no other word to define my behavior. I was protecting myself, I was very hurt and trying to survive. I had to take care of myself because no one else woulld. I wasnt protected or given a peaceful home. There was no peace. So, they created a wounded child and then complained. And being so self-absorbed themselves, took no responsibility or action in terms of helping me. So, really, who was the selfish one?