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Old Jan 22, 2010, 08:19 PM
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I too am really sorry aimeesh that you were put though that kind of ridicule. I remember when I went through it I had zero tolerance for anyone thinking it something to be joked about. It is bloody painful on so many levels. They have know idea. I feel your pain and I hope it gets easier for you soon. It does pass though you need to takes extra care to take special care of yourself so that it doesn't trigger new forms of depression that can hold you in an even firmer grip.

There may come a time when you will see the humour in such jokes but certainly not when you are in its grip. It is very likely your bf is getting some relief from the humour but if it is at your expense it can't be worth it in the end. I get a lot of that now related to menopause jokes and they aren't very funny either.

I guess I can appreciate how hard it may be for our significant others to be around us when we are going through these difficult times. I did talk to my partner about it and I don't think he ever really got it but at least he watched himself around me and saved the jokes for when I was way out of earshot or years later when I had some distance from the suffering.

Don't be too hard on your bf but be sure to let him know how it hurts to listen to people making fun of something that for you is extremely difficult and painful. These things don't happen to men for a reason. They have nowhere near the strength of mind or body to survive one week of it.

Stay strong.... we get it. They may never but we get it. Hope that helps a little.
Thanks for this!
lynn P.