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Old Jan 22, 2010, 11:27 PM
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Originally Posted by deliquesce View Post
i've never done group, sweetie, and i think you're super brave!!!

if you get put on the spot and don't feel comfortable revealing, just say something like "i'd prefer not to share that for the time being". it might lead into a discussion of what you need before you are more willing to share.

i hate being put on the spot (individual T) but one thing i've finally learnt is to say "no" when i don't want to go somewhere. austin-t says it's important to listen to those feelings, because they keep you protected until you feel safe enough to go there.
They set it up so I couldn't say no. They basically revealed it for me...I didn't say a thing regarding it.

I totally get what everyone here is saying about talking to the group about it, but I keep feeling like that will set me up to be put on the spot yet again, in much the same way. I don't know...
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