It's never any fun when somebody tries to "fix" you. Reading your post makes me realize that I need to be on the look out for trying to "fix" family members-something I probably try to do too often. At any rate, When people do try to "fix" us, I find that a good solution is simply to say, "Bless you." This can be said quietly or out loud if the person won't get offended. Their need to fix you usually has more to do with their own feelings of low self worth than it does with you. So next time that person tries to "fix" you, try giving her a blessing, and say, "bless you." I'd like to know if this has been helpful. Thanks.