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Originally Posted by BlueMoon6
MUE_ I think it is huge also that you said something to your mom. How was that being dismissed. I would imagine that feelings like those would best be brought out with a neutral person involved, like a T. SHe was abusive and dismissed you again. It gives me the shivers. Im not surprised she answered that way, though. I would not have expected her to say, "MUE- you are right and I have not treated you well over the years and I am sorry. I want to make it up to you, where do we go from here?"
Would you trust such a sentence form your mom? Well, maybe you would. From my mom, Id be sure she was after something.YUCK!
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I think I'd pass out if my mom said such a thing, LOL....Honestly, I think she just doesn't see it. My T said not to base my success on the reaction of others, and that me being honest with her - regardless of how she responds - is the success. I didn't continue to bury those feelings.
Of course, it was such a brief conversation, and yes, it wasn't taken seriously by her...but it was something I never thought I could ever ever do...and I did it.
Now, my dad is a whole other issue....Since he passed away and I miss him oh so terribly...and we had such a wonderful, loving relationship after I became an adult...til the end, I can't bring myself to be angry with him. The guilt, loyalty and incredible love and grief just get in the way. That's still a struggle I'm not ready to face.