Oh man do I hear you. Just because someone says something is safe doesn't mean it is. She's definately gotta earn that safety you know? On the other hand, I guess we have to be willing to let them earn it.

I'm with Echoes, did you ask her why she wanted a copy of what you wrote. If, as you suggest, she just wanted to keep it on file for no apparent reason, then, well, that's kinda crappy and rather sloppy of her. However, if she wanted a copy to learn more about you, her request might have some merit.

If I may play armchair therapist , I wonder if you just aren't ready to let her metaphorically keep a piece of you. If so, I get that 100%. We are precious things, us. Only the gentlest of the gentle get to hold what we value the most.