Ok so you know how there's a saying "Each relationship has it own pace"? Maybe I just made that saying up lol but anyway, here's the situation. I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. The first year has been very rocky. I think for now, we're learning to compromise and understand. We're pretty young, we just graduated college. We're still kids, so I guess we're still trying to find our ways. His parents don't know he has a girlfriend, so he can't talk to me on the phone or anything. When he's able to see me, I think he tells his parents he's going out with this guy friend. Anyway, whenever my family and I do something, I invite him to come along, but he always says no. So today, when he told me that he was going to the beach with his brother, I asked oh how come i can't come? And he said "oh do you want me to come pick you up? I just thought you might get bored 'cause I do beach stuff with my brother and we're gonna stay there long so I don't want you to be bored."
I know I'm not good at the beach thing he does with his brother and friends, but I just wanna come to see him. We rarely get to see each other. So I read again what I asked him online, and I realized I was inviting myself! and that is soo rude of me! I feel bad. Anyone thinks I was unreasonable? He says he wants to go the beach with me alone 'cause then he can spend time with me. I feel like, I'm not being included in any event of his life. Like...the only time I'd spend time with him is when he's alone. If he's with his friends then 100% of the time I won't be invited. So of course if it's an event with his family, I won't be invited either right? I tried inviting him to my friends' events like Thanksgiving party or Christmas party, but he always says no too. So..knowing that he probably won't let his parents know about me for a long time to come, anyone thinks it's weird of me of want to be included in some events with him? I don't know, maybe I am weird.