TheB said it so much more diplomatically than I would have. My response is...why is a fine young lady like yourself allowing your boyfriend to treat you like his dirty little secret? He's not married? Inept and dealing with social class issues? You do not deserve that either. If you really have the strength to find out, show up at the next family get together and have a nice chat whth his mother complete with pictures of the 2 of you doing relationship things (goes to credibility). Your bf is not willing to tell you the truth so I would not count on him. People who profess to care about one another sure do shi++y things to eachother don't they?