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Well, I am following my heart for now...and it feels right to remain friends with him. Thank you very much for the links, I will read them as soon as I finish answering the latest posts!

Would you mind expanding on what you mean by "keeping your own boundaries strong?"

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Broken_Wing said:I would like any advice on how to proceed with this relationship, as I won't be meeting him anytime soon, if ever. (I am in a relationship) 08/10/05

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">well.....we have a couple questions back for you. firstly what about this online friendship has drawn you to talking on the phone when you are already in a relationship? we wonder what level of friendship you are seeking with this person. is your partner comfortable with your online friendships that progress to a phone friendship? some people have no issues with their partner's online activities and friends........others are concerned and a bit jealous. just checking where you're at in regard to this.

about keeping your own boundaries? that means that you really take a look at how much time and energy you are willing and able to give to a friend in this kind of situation. you mentioned having an uncomfortable phone conversation with an alter who you ended up hanging up on. that sounds very challenging and frightening. what would you do if his behaviour continued to become more bizarre? how invested are you in being friendly to this man when at times it causes upset?

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Broken_Wing said:Am I being too emotional in thinking he is avoiding me? 08/11/05

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> that could be related to your level of self esteem and your personal sense of self. if you worry when you think someone is avoiding you when it is merely a sx of the disorder then we have concerns about whether or not this is a healthy friendship for you to continue on with.

we applaud your seeking information to learn more about the disorder. we hope you find a middle path that leaves you w/o worry and stress and with the ability to be a friend to your friend.

best wishes,
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