Personally your boyfriend is the one being rude. 2 years and his parents don't even KNOW about you? I wouldn't stand for that. My bf and I have been together about a year and he has met my family and I have met his. If you both are out of college then he is old enough to tell his parents he has a gf. This whole thing just sounds weird to me. My bf and I have pretty much intertwined lives now. My family sends him messages on facebook and his mom texts me. I help his sister out with school and my friends are his friends. We still do stuff separately but I wouldn't stand for a guy to not even let me into his life. Especially after 2 years. I'd be inviting myself everywhere if that were the case. And, I'm sorry, but it's not rude to "invite yourself" when you're his gf! I understand that every relationship moves at its own pace but he sounds like a friggen snail. And if that is all because of a relationship with his parents then that is kind of a red flag also. I have dated guys who never talked to their parents about anything and they ended up being pretty rude people in general. My current bf calls his mom all the time, always tells her that he loves her. His relationship with his parents can show you a lot about how he will treat you in the future. I would be really concerned with that whole situation, personally.