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(JD) · Jan 24, 2010, 08:26 PM

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No, I haven't remarried.
Everyone in my life left after I was injured/disabled.
Even my dad (who has since passed) said Why don't you go ahead and settle so you can quit going to doctors?

He didn't get it, at first.
My family bailed on me, as did my friends, and all my church acquaintances. I am JUST NOW working at creating new relationships. (24 years into it.)

One of the ongoing issues is having to deal with lawyers.
My own lawyer is paid by the opposition, and doesn't advocate for me.
She is denigrating and dismissive, and refuses to remember or understand most of the time.

I continue because I have no recourse.
It is my life, now, this chronic pain.

I wished to have gone to trial on my 3rd party suit, but my then-husband had the lawyer come over late at night and they forced a settlement under duress. The lawyer later declared to everyone but me that he didn't think I was hurt, and apologized to everyone BUT me, when he realized I really am...long after the forced settlement.

I have yet to have a hearing before the judge on my ongoing disability needs. This is a trick of the lawyers, to deny and delay...and then my attorney will agree to something without my consent and cancel the hearing scheduled etc. It takes maybe 8 months to get a hearing put onto the docket... it can truly drain you of any will to live.

I hope you can persevere.
I was being forced to settle my medical and pay, by my own attorney... for a pittance. I refused. She wouldn't listen. So before the "settlement" meeting, I took all my financials to my own CPA and had him figure what it takes for me to live, at full rate and with inflation. (You know, disability doesn't even pay what medicare pays for doctor's and medical, and when you pay it cash, you pay full rate etc.)
He computed, at that time, it would take 4 million dollars in the bank gaining interest for me to have enough to take care of my needs.
I went into the meeting, put a copy of his report down in front of both the attorneys, who's jaws dropped and then exclaimed, well I guess we won't be settling today.
They haven't broached the subject since, but getting them to meet my ongoing increasing needs is very difficult.

Ok, I rambled.
Keep your head up, realize that they will say all manner of lies about you. As long as your attorney knows when they are lying, and when it's important to correct it, let it go. It's part of the game they play.