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I have some thoughts on keeping good boundaries while interacting with anyone we meet through online contact:

As we communicate with someone online and via phone, we can ask ourselves if we would interact this way in person with them. Would we have them in our home? How much time would we spend with them if we met at the mall, at a bar?

I especially mean this in regards to difficult challenging interactions. Do we allow folks to get away with more when we are online, do we lose sight of our boundaries?

Online communication can have the thrill of the unknown and different, the dramatic. So important to remember that we still very much have to take excellent care of ourselves.

For me, I want to remember this, these are lessons hard learned. Why would I allow someone to be extra snippy to me, or mean, or scary, or confusing........just because we are online or on the phone? Does their diagnosis or mine mean that automatically I am suddenly not allowed to have full boundaries?

People play cruel games sometimes online. The internet is still somewhat the wild wild west. All the more vital to be alert and aware.

Sarah