You're choosing a school just to be by him? Why can't he choose a med school to be by you? There are like 300 med schools in the U.S. Why are you the one sacrificing everything? Sounds like you do all the giving in this relationship. You can't expect someone to put you above their education - that's a given. But my bf and I talked about it and flat out said...if there is no other reason for you to move other than me, then you shouldn't do it. But I'm not going to lower my education goals or sacrifice MY well being and education for a guy. No matter how much you love someone, it's not worth your own well being. Especially your education. You are there at his beckon call and away when he needs you to be. He wont tell his parents about you even though your parents (who you said are very strict also) know about him. You are straight up changing your school plans to suit him and has he even offered to do the same to you? I would put some serious thought into this before you do it. Why do you want to commit to a relationship that is partially based on a lie? What are you going to do if you're still together when he graduates and can finally tell his parents? You gonna wait another 3 years so that it doesn't look like you guys are engaged after dating for 1 week? Or are you going to be exposed to a family that eventually finds out that their child has been lying about you for years? Either way this sounds like a volcano waiting to erupt. Either they find out about you and resent you for their son lying to them. You guys have to keep up the lie about the last 2 years forever. You move and then break up and you are in a place you don't like without the guy you went their for.

I'm sorry I just really don't see how a situation like this can work out. I'm here for you and will give you all the support you need, but this really does sound like an eruption just waiting to be ignited.