Dear uoffl,

Maybe you should heed the thoughts of your close friend as she has your interests at heart and sees what is really happening. IMO he sould like a child who has never stood up to his parents, but he clearly has some back bone to fend you off when it isn't convenient for him.

The only compromises in this relationship is being done by you. The only sacrifices in this relationship are being made by you. You are clever and very intelligent (has to be so otherwise you wouldn't be in med school). You sound very caring towards him but it doesn't seem to be coming back your way. If I read what you are saying correctly, he has you right where he wants you. Cant he see that you are putting his needs ahead of yours always...??

Like Dr Phil says we teach people how to treat us. You are worth more than being hidden away like some secret.

How many years do you want to be treated like this?
Stop defending his rudeness and childishness. He is treating you badly.

If you need help then get it. Find some freedom and find your own sense of self worth.