uoffl I am trying really hard to be understanding of your feelings for him. But I have to say this (even at the cost of NF being mad); WHO CARES what his parents think? Salukigirl was trying to make the point of how ludicrous it is for him to be hiding his relationship from his parents, not trying to make you feel badly that he may get "in trouble". I'm still baffled as to how an adult can exactly "get in trouble" by his parents in the first place. As I am confused about things you say he's not "allowed" to do. Maybe I'm confused about your ages? Are you still in high school? If not, if you are both over 18 you are being severely misused in this situation. You shouldn't worry about his parents. You are in a relationship with your bf, not his parents. If we all worried about keeping everyone's parents happy, NO ONE would ever make it through any relationship, good or bad, parents are really hard to please. It seems bizarre to me that a man who's on his way into med school would be still taking orders from his parents and would be afraid to tell his parents something as innocent as about having a girlfriend. As possum220 points out, you are the only one sacrificing anything. You really need to try to get an outside perspective on this relationship before you go moving with this dude. And I'm assuming you won't be living together after you move (thank god), am I right? I would honestly have to wonder if he's got another girlfriend or some other secrets, its just far to strange to hear about a grown man who's parents supposedly control his life to this extent. Be careful. You don't want to ruin any part of your life chasing after a phantom relationship (something you thought was there, but really wasn't). I'm sorry to sound harsh about any of this, but the more I read from you, the more concerned about your well being I feel.