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Originally Posted by Abby
all i want is for someone for once in my whole entire life to say - okay you are hurting, i hear you, i won't make you go out there and face it again alone, i can't keep it away for forever but you can have a few minutes of relief from the pain and you can get some rest'. That is all i want, some blummin' rest!
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((((((((((((Abby))))))))))))
Can you tell her exactly this? Sometimes I have to practically give T a SCRIPT, especially earlier in therapy.
As much as I wanted T to be able to just *know* what I need, he really can't know unless I tell him. I have told T before that I just need to come and rest and be cared for. It's not easy...in fact, when I told him that I needed that, I was in crisis, and we were in the middle of rupture after rupture after rupture and it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to say. BUT! I did say it, and T heard me, and I got what I needed.
We know what we need to heal. Pay attention to that, and don't be afraid to tell T.
to you!