Thats really good that you actually like the school and the program and that is a plus.

My brother always gets mad at me when I say I'm messed up. It's not that you're messed up. Everybody is different in every way. Everyone has certain issues and you're not messed up - that's just the things we go through and society etc... It shouldn't be that he is "putting up" with you. I do some really quirky things and really weird things and it took a while before I found a guy who appreciated those things and didn't see them as "issues" but as things that are me so he likes them.

Like perpetuallysad said, I wasn't trying to make you feel bad. I'm just thinking of things that have happened to me. A guy followed me down here from Ohio and eventually we broke up. He wasn't okay with me going on in school or working and making more money than him. So then he ended up uprooting his entire life for a relationship that wasn't based on mutual trust and love.

I read a psych book once that explained relationships as trekking a mountain lol (I promise it makes sense). The relationship was like a base camp. You both have separate lives and do separate things but eventually come back to each other. You shouldn't have to follow someone. And like others have said, he is his own person and an adult. If he can't stand up to his own parents about something as important as his education....that's just weird to me. God knows my mom doesn't want me living 11 hours away in Arkansas but its what will make me happy so she doesn't say anything. My brother moved 3,000 miles away to LA and, even though my parents hated him being so far away, its what he had to do.

I will go back to the OP and say that no, you are not being rude. I feel like you are being too hard on yourself and going on guilt trips when they're not needed. You deserve to be invited on trips and to be invited over for family events. You seem like such a nice girl and I bet you could find any number of guys that would be proud to have you as their girlfriend and would be calling their parents talking about what a sweet, caring girl they met. I just don't like thinking about a smart sweet girl being hidden because of parents.