rainbow, you are doing great in your new T search. it does take time to find the right T and it is a bit by bit process of reading profiles, then talking to them and then meeting them where we gain a fuller picture of who they really are. some might seem great from a profile but a dud on the phone. i think many of us have had that happen. you don't sound too picky to me from what you wrote. i do think you have to talk to them to get a little sense of who they are. don't give up and trust your gut on this!