Phwew I can breathe now...I hadnt realized how anxious I was to find out how it went for you...You were heavy on my thoughts and hoping you were ok.
It sounds likea good step to me Heid...You took a chance because you felt your friendship was worht it as was she....and she accepted the open door, so to sya. If she is liek you, as you say, the things she did tell you were very hard for her to express before and she withdrew. Being liek you...it makes sense to me and comes across as being very honest.
All I can say is try to encourage the honesty between you two even if it may hurt the other person...agree between the two of you that you both KNOW neither ever wants to hurt the other. ANythign said that might...is only because you care about each other and your happinesses. She has the right to feel the way she does...she bases that on her own experience...not knwoing as much as you do about your relationship...and how she feels she would handle it. Comes down to she only wanted the best for you and for you to be happy. SO she was afraid to say so and backed off not realizing that probably hurt more than if she had voiced herself and taken a chance.
This is an awesome step Heid. I think you guys should keep talking about it and each of you make sure the other understands where the other is coming from or trying to say and why.
a Much better day, thanks for the Update I can quit stressing now so much that you're ok and not hurting so badly
phwew
love ya
Jenn