that's good stuff guys, i appreciate that. i would say i'm quiet at work, i close myself off to avoid people picking. i'm sure there's things others find bad about me, so i like you said try to do a good job and that alone. i've learned the hard way that everyone is not going to be my friend, especially in a work environment. what u said about the jekyl and hyde thing certaintly rings a bell. i don't have much of a social life out of work, so when i first started a job i didn't take it too serious. since then i have become a "good worker". and now like it's always been with certain others, i am told to just ignore them. i'm tired of hearing that and am thinking i have to be a tougher person i don't know how to go about being taken seriously. i'm not the type of person to say my boss for example what's his name decided to throw flour in my eye while i was cleaning the oven i think u should talk to him. nobody has my back but myself is the way i see it, i feel i usually get senseless advice anyway. i didn't physically do anything wrong to certain employees for them to take all their agression on me. i feel handicapped in that i don't follow with the gossip either which i'm probably a target of as well. it's hard really to say who really is genuine.