Hello Grithnir,
I read through your other posts so I could get a good feel for everthing that's happening with you right now -- there's a lot going on. I think it's worth emphasizing that most anyone would feel stressed by those events. One suggestion that might be helpful to you is to make a list of what's going on and then try to prioritize them. For example...

- Your partner is currently ill and you're feeling the burden of being the caregiver
- You're having some difficulties with family members
- You long for independence from your family
- You'd like to move for a number of different reasons

I suppose I listed them in the manner I might prioritize the same issues in my life if they were happening to me, maybe you'll list them differently. Some of your anxiety seems to be related to the idea that you have to get everything taken care of as soon as possible and because there's so much, you feel overwhelmed and exhausted before you even get started. It's okay to take it one step at a time.

I'm pleased, as well, to see that you're making use of some of the other areas of the site. You're going to find lots of other people who are dealing with the same kinds of problems you are and you're going to learn from each other. You'll get things figured out for yourself but it does take time.

Meantime, you asked about meds. Some people find that during times of high stress they manage better with an increase in their medication. Once the stress has passed, they can reduce it once more.

As for additional ideas...

- In the signature area of my post is a link on the Spirit of Tonglen. This is a very simple meditative practice that I found very helpful. Initially I did it as a means of pain relief but later I found it could be very grounding; sometimes, all it would take would be a few breaths and I could feel centered once more. I don't know if it would work for you but you could give it a try.

- Something else I found soothing was to complete a simple task such as washing dishes, raking leaves, or folding the laundry and giving it my full attention. I suspect this is a form of Mindfulness practice.

- Another little trick that could make me feel more in control was to write a "To-Do" list, in reverse. This means the task or activity wouldn't get added to my list until it was completed. That meant that I could look at the list and feel good about what I'd accomplished as opposed to looking at it and thinking there was still so much that I hadn't gotten done.

Anyway, just a few ideas for you.

~ Namaste