I like the conclusion you and hubby came to; everyone deserves respect. You earn respect simply by showing it to other people! You also earn disrespect when you do that to others. You get back what you put out, it's as simple as that. It's the law of karma. What goes around really does come around, no pun intended. This is why you're supposed to treat others the way you would like to be treated.

I like to siphon off my pain sometimes when it becomes too much, especially with my father. Let me be clear here though; my father is a wonderful man and has been a wonderful parent throughout my entire life. I was never abused physically or mentally. However, I don't think he realizes the impact of his words sometimes. They're not abusive, per say. They're more like harsh truths that I just don't want to face.

But this is why I get that from my dad. I do show him respect, but when I siphon off my pain it'll come back to me. It's an endless cycle until I decide to break it. More to the point, you and everyone else in this world is entitled to respect -- as long as you're willing to show it to others. Hope that helps