Your mom is just using that label because she thinks it will hurt you. (That's my guess at least.) I have had to cut my mom out of my life because she was so abusive to me as a child and has continued the verbal/mental/emotional abuse into my life as an adult. For years I thought there must be something wrong that makes my mom not accept me for who I am, to never think I'm good enough. My t/pdoc has finally convinced me that she will NEVER accept me for who I am because that's who SHE is. Not having to deal with new abuse is so...refreshing! I have so much in my past to work on, its wonderful not to have to pile anything from the present onto my problems. I'm not saying you should cut your mom out of your life, but if she's not being kind and supportive, why do you talk to her? It took a long time for me to realize she couldn't hurt me anymore if I didn't let her (i.e. if I didn't call her, she couldn't say mean things to me). Maybe if you take a break from her, you will be able to deal with other things in your life instead of her adding on to your current problems?