((Sannah))
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My 8 yr old points to a color and says "Mom, you love this color, choose this one". She was exactly right. It was a perfect choice for me but why the heck didn't I know that! I said something about it at the time and my daughter said "You don't know what you like!" Yes, my darling, I am clueless sometimes about what I want....
I will have to think more on what I am trying to contain concerning how I am feeling about myself when with others?????
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You DID know that it was the perfect color for you -- otherwise how could you have responded so quickly when your daughter pointed it out? I'm not saying you consciously have access to this information, but somewhere inside you DO know what you want/like.
Now, the trick is to bring it out in a safe way. Since you have a supportive family, maybe you could try a 'game' of 'Sannah chooses day'. A day where you have to choose what you want all day. My H does this to me sometimes, and although it can be very frustrating, as long as it is done with a loving approach I also think it can be healing.
How different is you choosing what you like from you getting in touch with what you need?
Secondarily, what if you choose something that you like and other people don't like it? What would that look like, how might that feel?
