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Originally Posted by Kiya
saying "I can be safe". Not "i am safe" because clearly in that moment the mind does not feel safe and lies are not helpful.
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wow, that really struck a note with me, Kiya. I don't feel safe in those moments and part of that is because, clearly, I don't always know when to feel safe. That is, bad things have happened to me in the past when I felt safe, so how do I know what safe IS?
I like "I can be safe", it feels much more authentic to me.
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Originally Posted by googley
Zoopra-
I hope that you are feeling better and you should talk to your T about your reticence to call her when you are having problems. I just did this with my T. And while it still is hard to call and ask for help, I know with talking about it over time it will get easier for me to ask for it. I often feel the same way that I should be good enough to be able to deal with it on my own. It takes strength to ask for help.
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I've been with my T for 15 mos now and I still have trouble with calling her, still feel like I shouldn't be calling her when I do, but I do it anway. Sometimes, lately, I feel like I do it too much, but I try not to. It's always really hard for me to decide what is worth calling her for and what isn't.
I have to play the tape in my head of her saying, as she has many times, "the answer to that is, if you think about calling me, call me!"
