I too have too strong a sense of expectations from others sometimes and I really hate starting a new job too. But I have learned to try to chose my battles. I think to myself, "Is this really a battle I can win." Sadly often times I say no. Most people are satisfied with the status quo and don't want to get involved or change. I do what I can in my own way to either show by example or let it go if I can. It's very hard to do though.

But to close good luck with the new job!