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Jan 27, 2010, 05:37 AM
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Originally Posted by zooropa
I know this is probably some sort of cognitive distortion on my part, some way in which I need to challenge my thinking.
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Let's take a look, starting here:
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It sounds a lot like she's saying "if you would think about it differently, you wouldn't suffer so much when the flashbacks happen". It feels like it's my fault for suffering, because I'm doing it wrong. The negative, self-hatred type feelings just snowball from there.
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What if the "if you would think about it differently, you wouldn't suffer so much when the flashbacks happen" part were actually true -- only you weren't ready to appreciate it and kept turning it into something else with, "It feels like it's my fault for suffering, because I'm doing it wrong"...?
It seems to me that a flashback, or anything else, is a lot easier to live with and let go of when you can let it be just a flashback -- and a lot harder when you take it as a sign that you're doing something wrong and are at fault.
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