Yes, thats how I can feel too. I think for me its a bit more than just that though, I realize now that I am so afraid of being abandoned that I allow people to "use" me hoping that they will then not be able to do without me, but in doing that I am abandoning myself, putting someone Else's needs above my own, not listening to my feelings.

Now I've caught this "abandonment dance" I think I;ll be able to tell myself whats happening and then soothe myself, and feel the feelings of rejection and know its OK now, I'm a grown up, yes this is the small child inside thats been directing this little "dance". Its been so painful doing this and not having any insight into why I am doing,, why the other person was triggering and why I choose to keep repeating the behavior.

I'm not blaming the "other" person, but they do tend to be the sort of people that have no interest in whose shoulder they cry on, as long as its a shoulder so really I wasn't securing a relationship with them anyways, I was picking people who have no genuine interest in me, geez I was never going to feel "secure" LOL! oh dear, its such a classic case of fear of rejection but its not until we put the pieces to our_own_stories can we see it and then change it.