Kitten, what you have described I have experienced too! I have thought of this before, that the people have to be just like me! I always thought that this just wasn't right but then I never continued to think about it. What does this mean that we want people to be just like us?? I have had these same thoughts!

Some thoughts that come to my mind - If people are just like us then there will be no surprises for us and this will help us to feel more secure?

Would this give us validation if people were just like us?

Is this an immature egocentric wish because we haven't developed emotionally completely??