Ewwww...this woman doesnt sound like she's got a clue. Maybe she is good at meditation, but not at sexual abuse. Im assuming she is not a therapist with psych training.

It is very very difficult and infuriating to be dismissed and not believed. And misunderstood. I have a really hard time letting go of that stuff when I perceive someone acting like that to me. EIther I can dismiss their remarks as not understanding and not having information on the matter or I can get really angry because I WANT THEM TO UNDERSTAND AND SEE MY POINT! UGH!

I sense this woman doesnt realize or would even believe she is crossing boundaries here. And giving advice when she doesnt know what she is talking about. In many ways, csa does define our issues. Even if she doesnt get it. It is SO not her place to tell you what should define you and what should not and she has no place voicing her opinion about a serious subject in your life.

Let me run something by you...I may be totally off base. If I tell someone about csa (which I dont) I feel like it trivializes it. Especially if I dont know how someone will hear it or feel complelled to offer advice as opposed to a hug or caring ear. I have told only 2 friends. This may be a big reason. It is a part of me that I might feel would be trivialized by someone else should they offer me suggestions or advice. I am handling it and it is not their business to offer me anything more than a hug. I dont mean that in a mean way, I love my friends, it is just that it is a delicate subject that even feedback from other people can trigger all kinds of stuff.

Maybe to see this woman's words as nothing more than a lack of understanding, bad boundaries and that she believes its OK for her to offer you advice and suggestions on a subject that she doesnt know how to handle (apparently).

What do you think?