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(JD) · Jan 27, 2010, 01:49 PM

I'm sorry you're feeling so angry, and venting it at your mom. Anger is a negative component of depression.
You're an adult, and need to have an adult conversation with your mom...and not one where either of you act out as though you aren't adults.
She must have some reasoning as to why she thinks waking you at that hour is a good thing. Do you have your own alarm clock, so she can rely upon it waking you instead?

Ruminating at bedtime is common. Make a list before bedtime of all the things you "need" to do or think about tomorrow. Remind yourself at night that it's nighttime and there's nothing you can do about any of it right then.
Create a bedtime routine. You might ask your mom's help in this, because remembering and doing need support until it's a good habit.
Choose a good time to begin "heading for bed." Hopefully before midnight at first? Make your list of thoughts and issues. Take a hot bath, or a calming walk... maybe have a small snack (milk helps.) Don't watch any tv or listen to any music that's exciting... nor read any book that is dramatic etc. You get the idea.
Find a good time for doing all this, but I suggest at least an hour before that new "bedtime."
Don't begin any projects, have any arguments, work on anything stressful (like bills) during that hour...it's all about teaching your body it's time for bed.
There are herbal teas that can help. Maybe you've tried some... but valerian, and passion flower in 800 -1000 mg doses (some products are about 60mg and don't do anything but take your money.) Be sure to ask your doctor or pharmacist depending upon the medications you already take.

You can probably google sleep routine for other ideas...
Breathe. Anger gets us no where. I don't see where the anger you have is much more than being angry you aren't feeling well. That will make you feel worse. Yeah, it's miserable to feel unwell, but being angry at yourself isn't a good thing.