I couldn't believe it when I read that bit about the "Latin Lover" I had a boyfriend from Mexico when I was in college, but I honestly can't say there was a huge dif, not that it got to that point... But those women , OMG!!!!! Unbelievable! And the family, Jeeeminy! No "Thank you for such a beautiful grandson, nephew, etc?" I know it's painful to have your family turn like that, but Kathy, I think you're well quit them. Bluntly put, but I think your son is perhaps better with the family he has now; you, your hubby, etc.
My MIL was rather that way about her son marrying an American. I have had to put up with the "uncultured," "undereducated", "Low class" jibes from her for a long time. It was just recently she found that she was so off base she started to turn green, but you know I DON**T CARE. If she can't abide the fact that one side of my family was working class and Irish, then basically, I have written her off. I will be civil to her because she is my husband's mother and I love him, but I will not have her turn face and start sucking up to me because my father's family turned out to be acceptable in her books. PLEASE!!! Such people will develop all sorts of bigotry to try to maintain their place at the top of the food chain. It can be aimed at everyone and everything, just so that people like her can keep up the feeling of being special. She won't change, and most of them don't, no matter how hard you try to educate them. my only comfort is knowing that the cat pounced at a small, moving thing hoping to torment a mouse and caught a tiger by the tail instead.