wow tree, i'd be angry at this T too. she was totally unprofessional and crossed all kinds of professional boundaries. YOU have nothing to be ashamed of but SHE does. you handled things superbly. she made quite a mess of the relationship.

i think anger is information to tell us something is wrong that someone is doing. i think for those of us who have seen anger used to hurt others it can be a very scary emotion. i am also quite afraid of my own anger because i'm so afraid it will hurt others if i let it out. but squelching it doesn't work either. it's learning how to communicate calmly despite the anger that seems to be what i work on. i definitely have a hard time on this one and have gotten much angrier with people at times than i would like but it is a learning process. the more we hold it in the more it grows into a bigger and bigger monster that is harder to control when we do try to let some out. that has been my experience anyway.