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Originally Posted by zooropa
I think you're right, that if I could, in those moments, let go and just let it be a flashback and know it's not happening now and that I'm safe now and that I survived it already (something my T is always reminding me, that I survived it!), it would be easier to live with.
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So far, so good! So when...
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...it's my mind at play against itself, my inner "punishing parent", that turns that around and makes it a failure on my part when I'm not able to do that.
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...I say that's
just another kind of flashback -- and fair game for mindfulness:
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Originally Posted by zooropa
For example, when I'm having a flashback, to remind myself that it's not happening NOW and to do grounding to keep myself oriented to the present.
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When stuff like that comes up for me I'm as likely as not to say, "Oh, hello, inner punishing parent, I've been expecting you.
Here's your hat, what's your hurry?"
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...And that every time I notice a thought or emotion, that IS mindfulness, and noticing that I noticed it, that is mindfulness too. That's doing it.
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I'm afraid your T is right, zoo. You're welcome to try to convince me otherwise but I'm not planning to be easily convinced.