Deli, I understand what you are saying. The T's voice is important to me because of my issue with attachment. I'm glad you brought this up. You said in your therapy you don't discuss your relationship with each other. It's not an important part of therapy.

You're getting me to see something crucial! Already I want to choose a T I will attach to. That by itself is good. But, maybe you're right. It's imperative for me to choose a T (I'm almost doing it subconsciously) I will overly attach to, again. I'm looking for soothing in her voice. I don't know if I'm setting myself up to be hurt again!

Do I want a good T or someone who will be nice to me? I don't know! Emotionally I know I want the nice T. Rationally, ????? I called one of the Ts who seems more like my current T, except she has better credentials and more experience. I am hoping to find someone who satisifes both of my needs: for someone "nice" and nurturing, and for someone who knows what she's doing and how to help me.