Rainbow- I am sorry I didnt read through everything on the thread, Maybe its because of the familiarity we have with each other I love you and I want you to know Im thinking about you and with you on this issue.

I have the same thing (of course) with a Ts voice, BUT its very true for me that its more my imagination than the reality that the T will be nice or nice depending on their voice. Ftt sounds like she is very very young on her voicemail and even in person, but she (I think) it a bit older than me. Maybe by 1 or 2 yrs. And she looks real young. But she is very knowledgable and I dont have mother-related anxiety over her. I feel comfortable and the anxiousness I felt with dt isnt there. Dt's voice is mature and professional (coldish, actually) and she wasnt a good therapist.

My opinion, that you didnt ask for Is to talk and evaluate the content of the conversation, even if they sound like quasi moto. See if they are responsive to you or feel overwhelmed by what you need and want. When I was talking to Ts on the phone I listened for coldness and a lack of responsiveness. I responded well to someone who seemed intereted in my issues and asked further questions that seemed to show insight.

And keep in mind that when I was doing this it made me miss DT VERY VERY much. So....dont go by that!

What's with the expressive arts T????