I don't think pornography is the answer. Everytime I have sexual encounters with men, as I am one myself, I run into a tyrade of religiousity and trying to rid myself of these feelings. Sexual encounters complicate matters, but can be satisfying for a time if it is the right kind of person. Gay men can be flaky and also are more prone to risk unsafe sex especially with alcohol, it has happened with me on a few occasions and I thank God I never contracted an illness. I know I am gay and always have, I find no pleasure looking at a beautiful women but can watch music videos of certain women over and over again. If hooking up with a guy is going to cause great distress, emotional trauma and eventually intensive therapy than I would avoid that, but I don't discourage talking with other gay men. I attend weekly meetings with other gay men choosing to live a chaste life, which includes pornography and it has helped contain feelings but closeness with men is important to me. I live with a straight male that I once had a relationship with, now we just hug a lot.

Just saying meeting people off the internet and in person is a risky business but will provide a lot of experience to think about, and in general other ways of meeting people are more validated and create a more positive experience. I don't obstain from pornography and I would like to meet some more gay men in the future mainly to be friends with, but in general it is all very risky emotionally and you should educate yourself into internet meetings if that is the next step you took. I wish sometimes I was not gay, but have coped with it all my life, from a very early age I knew I was. There are a lot of ideas out there about it, and male bonding on more intimate levels for heterosexual males is difficult but sometimes needed to understand or appreciate male beauty just as women appreciate female beauty without being gay. Just don't dive into something headfirst and think a good outcome will come from it. I think improving spirituality and learning about buddhism are better for my mind than gay porn and some of the shallow encounters I have had with men that want just a few things and some of them have been weird and I have regretted it. I have been in only three serious relationships with men that lasted a very long time and mainly it was our connection of wanting marijuana that kept that party going, and I am done with all that, so just a cautious warning about being bi-curious.