Agreed, in person contact with people in your area are out there and that is preferable to internet stuff. I am inclined to say that when I made a decision to have sex with a man it kindof escaladed into a lot of chaos for me. It was soothed over by more long term relationships with men. I tried in high school to go to a place that was for gay youth but was afraid and only in college was I really given an education in a lot of things that are too complicated to explain. Intellectual, spiritual, sexual stuff and dominance issues. A lot of gay ment just want the release of ejaculation without any drama involved but I am the type of person that likes to know who I am dealing with in all situations. Who knows the answer until you talk with the LBGT community in your area. They have offices in most places. And like I did gay.com was a source of meeting men and it certainly isn't the greatest place, sort of like let's me at a coffee shop and get to it sometimes and for me at the time is what I wanted, no drama. I don't have an answer, it is such a complicated issue.