exoticflower

i know there is no easy answer to this...

you guys have history..good and bad...

i could be wrong and probably am...

he's going to continue to be a thorn in your side..no matter what...if you don't file a complaint, if you do..either way. obviously this guy isn't quite right. he is pushing boundaries and knows how to play you.

he knows you alone will not file a complaint so he feels free to continue to harass you in ways that seem fairly harmless.."what did i do? use a gym? waht's wrong with that?" to someone who doesn't know the whole story you will look like the "odd" person for complaining about him.

here is what i think...(and like i said..i may be totally wrong..& feel free to say so) you have a few choices...none of them easy or right...file a complaint on him and let him reputation be damned or forget about him.

yes you had a relationship and he meant something to you. i realize that...but..he hurt you..and damaged you and years later you are still suffering...so maybe the positive wasn't all that positive..

my t damaged me too..she knows a hell of alot about me..i could so file a complaint..but i have chosen not to..not because i am afraid but because at this point in my life i have opted not too. perhaps a few yrs from now i will when i feel stronger, but for now, no. when my time is right i will. we did not have an affair but she sexually abused and emotionally abused me.

at some point healing is important...so either letting go or fixing it comes into play i would think. if this guy lives in your community you have to make peace with yourself..you will still have contact with him regardless of whether you want to see him or not..it is up to you then of how you want to handle it internally. do you wqnt to spend the rest of your life beating yourself up every time you see him (especially if you continue to attend college and he is there?)

i don't mean to sound harsh..you know i am a supporter..but at some point i just think there needs to be a decision one way or another...you can't live your life thru a fear of him or in fear of the damage he has done...you worked hard, and recognized the damage he has caused, now let it go...if he want's to be a jack *** about it well then he deserve's everything he has coming for it.

some people enjoy ruining other people's lives..they get off on it..the power does things for them..obviously this guy is one of them..and he still has a hold on you...let go of his hand...

you were strong when you made your speech..you stood up and railed for what was right for your brother and other children..now do what is right for you. it won't be easy...let this guy go, it's your past,.

yeah he is in your field..so what..we all make enemies in our field of employment..again so what..someone says something..you say...he has improper boundaries...check his background...hell maybe he won't even have a license by then...i doubt you were his 1st...anyway..its a he said/she said. people listen to what they want to hear. regardless.

do it for yourself..for your self worth.

stumpy