I agree with you, Faye, that it is harder than death. I recently read a book which talked about that very subject. The grieving widow has closure and the support and sympathy of friends and family.

Big ouch.

I have two sister-in-laws, their children, my Mom and myself who would debate you on this.

Closure as far as seeing your loved ones in caskets? Nothing closed for me but the lid and the ground.

Support and sympathy until the mourners are done stuffing their faces with doughnuts, maybe.

Petunia

(Sorry about the hi-jack Grace, not discounting the pain of a breakup. I have been there myself and I know how hard it is. I am sorry you are hurting.)