Susan,

Thanks for the hugs and support- very appreciated! Yeah- venting or saying anything that might be taken negative is tough for me.

You got me thinking, maybe some people are trying to pull something positive out of a bad situation- by saying some of the things they say. Kind of like trying to fix what is broke--- but I find it best to just support-- like saying "I'm sorry for your hurt"- or "I'm here if you need to talk"-- instead of trying to show a "less tragic side", which can make the sufferer feel invalidated. I guess they are just trying to be supportive-- in a not so good way though. t/c- thanks for responding.

mandy