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Originally Posted by TayQuincy
I don't think that DBT therapists think people SI for attention. In fact, my t doesn't, and she is a DBT trainer. They actually see SI as a coping skill that works very well in the moment, but causes physical damage that can cause secondary problems (infections, scars, etc). DBT skills are meant to replace SI. I think there is the belief that people SI because they are in overwhelming pain. I would say that is accurate.
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I agree with you Tay, I have been told this, too. That when I SI, it works to reduce the pain and is a way to cope with feelings when overwhelmed. I have also been told that in terms or reinforcement, to not give it much attention as it reinforces the behavior. I dont know how to reconcile the two attitudes I have been shown when I have SI'd and thank God I am not doing that now. I think the attitude you are talikng about is much more compassionate and understands me better b/c that is one of the reasons I would SI. But what about this idea of not reinforcing the behavior? Have heard of or run across that attitude toward SI?
I wish I had had a T that had said to me, "How can you better cope with your feelings next time you feel overwhelmed?" Sadly, no one ever said that to me.
Zoo- I know it feels like she doesnt care and I like what Tree said about this being the protocol and, you know, this will pass and you will call her and she does seem like she cares about you a lot, and I think you will see her caring when you call. I really love that she showed such concern for you and if you were OK in that moment and then told you to call tomorrow.
How are you feeling today? I am so sorry I brought my own very negative atittude about therapists and this to your thread. I hope you are doing better today. Please post and let us know how you feel today.
