Thanks for the bear hugs Fuzzy-- very appreciated.

Petunia,

Invalidation does hurt. I'm beginning to realize that I was raised with " invalidation overload " ! Couldn't show any upset feelings without being told I was dumb or wrong or just ignored. And of course I had to choose a mate that would act towards me in the same manner-- as that was familiar to me.

I feel like I went from a mess I had no control over into a mess that I partly created-- and find myself questioning the comment--- that people aren't given more than they can handle. I'm feeling like I'm at my breaking point.

There's a quote that I currently relate to- not sure who said it-- " I used to have a handle on life but it broke off ". Albeit, my " handle" was delusional-- it did hold things together somewhat.

Lately, through therapy, I'm seeing things clearer- but seems as though at the same time-- I'm feeling more lost and confused.........* sigh*---- don't know where this is all heading and how to cope sometimes.

mandy