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marjan · Jan 29, 2010, 05:51 PM

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Originally Posted by lynn P.

That's my girl, you make me proud and high five to you ((Marjan)). Remember when you 1st broke up, I advised you to do all these things. You've come a long way and doesn't it feel good to let go of the anger, resentment and just see him for the wounded person he is. I remember telling you his new relationship wouldn't last long, because rebounds rarely do. Perhaps he's starting to learn he can't keep going this way. You showed great compassion and understanding - you're so right, life is too short. That was a beautiful story and thanks for sharing. This is a pivotal point in your life.

Yes....Thanks to you lynn and all my friends here in PC for being so supportive and help me to show me the way.....
Last night I went to my dance class thinking that he might not even show up, because it was his birthday....but surprise....he came....when it was my turn dancing with him, the teacher announced that it's Aaron's birthday....well, I was standing next to him and I said happy birthday....and I remembered last year that I was with him at this time....Then, I saw him exchanging phone number with a new girl in the class, a cute Chinese girl....I saw how she's happy to give her phone number to him and I thought poor girl, she doesn't know what she's signing up for.....I danced the whole night and I didn't care about him....I wasn't sad anymore when he left without good bye....I didn't care....I just enjoyed dancing....finally, I'm detached from him and I can enjoy just going to class and dance....I felt so good and free.....
yes....this was a long journey and I had to experience it all by myself....
Kevin likes to go to my Buddhism classes and meditate, he asked me for the class info....he likes hiking and starts dancing.....He's not aggressive like Aaron to get me and to call me all the time, although I miss that, but he goes slowly and smoothly....He's so new into my life, and I'm not sure about future, but just knowing that yes, there is somebody out there that I like to spend time with and he will listen to me without making fun of my ideas, is happy feelings....and it brings hope and joy to my life.....
Thanks again to you and my other friends in PC who helped me to go through those really bad times.....
I'm still trying hard to not get attached to people so much....and do what I enjoy to do and help people and forgive them if something goes wrong.....
Thanks
Marjan

P.S. I like to share my experience here, because I can see so many of us are going through same type of relationships and emotions.....guys, there is light at the end of the tunnel.....If even we don't find the one that we want, but still we can work on ourselves and grow as a good human being....it's a long journey and it's rocky sometimes, but we can do it.....