@LynD - I know I get emotional when I have to deal with my soon to be ex. Just seeing her or hearing her on the phone puts me in a funk I have trouble staying stable afterwards. In fact, I am on my way out the door right now to go get my kids and I want to take her and hug her and ask her to please come home. But I know this is not possible; so I set up a wall to my emotions and then I am distant from my kids; which then upsets me and I feel guilty after they've gone. Not sure what to do about that - but I understand that any contact with your "ex" is difficult.